But I would like to bring forward some medical perceptions for those who would like to understand more on their situation.

My Friend sent me these links which are rather useful:

http://justwoman.asiaone.com/Just+Woman/About+Me/Well+Being/Story/A1Story20081031-97445.html

Some maybe suffering from Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder(HSDD) which is a lack of desire or interest in sexual activity. It can cause great distress and fustration for a couple and may ruin a marriage simply because it affects sex life . Most importantly I feel that the other partner should understand the situation and not add even more stree to the ‘patient’. Communication between both parties to understand and address the issue is also very important.

Another link which is also use ful http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/womenshealth/features/sexualdesire.htm indicates that it may be a hormonal problem.

Having too much sex is unhealthy but having too few is also unhealthy. When it becomes a routine it’s no longer an action to show love but  a way to satisfy each other’s need. Thus in order to keep it fresh with love, couples have to understand each other’s lifestyle and body condition and not demand sex from each other.

Below is a link from NTU which i feel is very useful..

http://www.ntu.edu.sg/scc/selfhelpresources/Pages/handlingcommonrelationshipproblems.aspx

Find the topic very interesting..

 where can we find virgins who are not primary sch gals, pretty and sexy..??

Does it really mean that virgins will be the virtuous wife and good mother, good daughter inlaw, demure and so on??

This is quoted for : http://queersingaporean.blogspot.com/2005/05/while-reading-up-on-straits-times.html

While reading up on Straits Times Interactive today (which I absolutely regret paying for that damn service), I chanced upon the article on virginity by this girl called Lee Wan Yi.
Yes yes, we are from an Asian country, so asian values would mean having to keep your “first time” for your husband. That sounds more like a Male Chauvanist Pig value in my opinion actually. Nevermind about that, but it was what this NTU girl wrote that annoyed me a lil.

Here I quote,
“Virginity is the best gift a woman can present to her husband.”

Er… Hello…? Knock knock? Are you stuck in the 1800s or something whereby your husband has to “poke” you on the night you get married and see if you’ll bleed till the sheets get stained. THEN the next morning that pussy boy will bring the sheets to his mother and the whole family will rejoice in unison and acknowledge that the girl that just got fucked the night before is a virgin, and hence would be a virtuous wife and a good mother, good daughter-in-law and the list goes on.

The point is, this girl who just wrote to Straits Times has just demonstrated to the whole wide world (in my opinion) that it is important for a woman to let her husband have the first time? What about the husband? Does it mean that the guy is at liberty to screw around but not the girl? I don’t have that much guy friends who are still a virgin, in fact some of them lose their virginity in NS when their friends drag them to Geylang for a good time and make sure that they LOSE it that instant.

It just pisses me off, what is the world coming to?

I mean really, I don’t have a problem with virgins, neither do I have a problem with non-virgins. I’m pretty confused you see, in a heterosexual world, I’m still considered a virgin (or so my partner insist; edit: i didnt insist, just ‘technically’ you are still one but then again that is in the hetero point of view so whatever, fuck it la, literally) but not in a lesbian world. I have friends who are still virgins, and some others, in a monogamous relationship but are sexually active WITH their partners.

It’s just so hypocritical and typical of the government to be like that. They believe the need for sexual education, but not prevention of sexually transmitted diseases. Why so? Think about the Snowball party whereby there was a booth set up to distribute condoms in conjunction of promoting awareness for preventing AIDS. That booth was shut down by the police, and yeah, once again it was seen as promoting an alternative lifestyle just because it’s a party of gays and lesbians. What about heterosexual people who’s forever ONS-ing?

There’re just so many arguements to why sometimes pre-marital sex is inevitable

Demure girls cannot survive well in todays’ world anymore, unless they have a super rich n faithful husband.. But guys being playful by nature once they have money they become a devil.. be aware demure girls.. if u are not strong enough be careful when they divorce you..unless you don mind sharing.. I believer the olden time demure woman do not mind ..

In 2005 a camp was organized to teach girls to be demure aka shu nu

 This camp, is about teaching young girls how to be a shu nu. Shu nu? Demure woman lah… The kinda sweet innocent young ladies who knows how to “behave” themselves and look after their husband in the future?

OMG !! What century are we in today??

http://queersingaporean.blogspot.com/2005/06/i-will-be-shu-nu-aka-demure-lady-camp.html

Many comments were given in the link above. And I agree that Woman liberation has lead to woman being strong and independent. Woman should have their own achievement and thinking. Singaporean woman are juz fine! Those weak demure woman who are always whiny and wimpy please stand aside.. you are only going to affect your husband’s career.. and if your husband cheat on you one day.. you without that strong independence and career be ready to suffer(unless u marry a supper rich man who can give u lots of money) . In today’s strongly competitive environment in Singapore, everybody including woman got to be trong.. Housewife is no longer a norm .. you can be a  housewife if your husband is rich enough to resolve all financial issues in the family.

In today’s society, we woman are becoming stronger..

Let me lift form the blog:

培养淑女从少女开始

　　 先说什么是淑女？所谓淑女无非是指“美好的、优雅的女人”，表现在个人的言行举止、仪表，仪态、风度、气质等方面。

　　虽说这是个男女平等的时代，但不论在生理或是心理上，男女之间，终究还是应该有不同的气质和韵味。男女平等并不表示男女不分。

　 　中华总商会企业管理学院学术部主任及文化语言中心负责人彭志红说，举办“淑女营”的 主要原因，是因为目前有许多家长觉得现在的女孩子欠缺女性气质，行为举止很“豪放”，失去了女性的优雅，比如在一些公共场所如地铁上或地铁站经常可看到女 孩子席地而坐，动作很不优雅；又如一些女孩子待人接物不够斯文有礼，显得没有礼貌；甚至也有一些女生不太懂得注重仪表，不会穿衣服；另有一些妈妈则投诉， 女儿的房间很凌乱，从来不收拾衣物。

简单的说，目前女孩子的性别特质较过去都淡化。

彭志红说，“淑女营”主要为十几岁的女孩子提供“养成教育”，也就是日常行为规范方面，因为十几岁是身心发展的重要时期，促进女孩子良好个性品质形成。

　 　她说：“我们开办‘淑女营’是在双文化人才培养方面所作的一个新尝试，因为文化貌似 一个抽象的概念，但文化是具体表现在社会生活的每一个部分，以及每一个人的行为举止之中的。女性素质的高低对家庭的文化氛围及生活品味起着重要的影响，从 某种意义上，女性教育的成效与一个优雅社会的形成有着内在的紧密关联。关注与加强对正在成长阶段女孩的养成教育，培养她们成为睿智、具有柔韧之美，干练又 不失婉约优雅的新一代女性。”

她说，要培养淑女必须从少女时代开始，全面塑造女孩的内在气质与外在形象。这些，便是开办“淑女营”的初衷。

女儿太好胜少了女人味

一些家长也认为，气质和涵养也必须靠后天培养。

50岁的谢女士之所以特别为14岁的女儿报名参加淑女营，就是发觉女儿在待人接物方面不够婉转，对父母和家人也不够体贴，更不要说协助妈妈做家务。

　　谢女士说：“我希望自己的女儿能多学一些关于华族礼仪的东西，行事作风较为彬彬有礼，比较像个女孩子，这是目前许多女孩子较缺乏的部分。”

　　邓太太也希望自己的女儿能够懂得，“如何做一个真正的女孩子？”

　　她说：“要做一个成功的女性并不一定要什么都和男性拼斗，现在的女孩子都太野、太好胜，不知不觉失去了女性的特点，我希望能够将她们拉回来，但这并不是要她们像我们的上一代一样以男性为中心。”

5天学会当淑女

　 　从今天开始为期5天的“淑女营”教学内容，包括第一天的“华族礼仪”如日常待人接 物，节日探亲访友，了解节日典故及家庭伦理修养等；第二天的“优秀女性面面观”，如传达优秀女性的特质，优秀女性的类型，优秀女性的气质美，优秀女性的形 象美及优秀女性的成长之路等。第三天的“花季热线”，则包含了如何与父母有效沟通，如何处理与异性的关系，如何保护自己身体发育带来的变化与烦恼等。

　　而在第四天的“阳光女孩的衣、食、住、行”，则从审美品味的角度，教导女孩如何穿出青春之美，如何吃出少女的健康美丽，如何使书橱衣橱井然有序、设计属于自己的个性闺房，管理好自己的情绪，做个快乐的女孩儿。

　　现代女孩都不做家务？在课程的第5天，淑女营则教导女孩做个妈妈的好帮手，甚至训练她们做个“临时小主妇”，帮妈妈安排一周的家庭生活；做个巧手小公主，动手帮妈妈扮靓家居。

Ok translation, I’ll make this short and sweet.
Singapore girls don’t know how to behave like woman, too competitive with man, don’t know how to dress, act like wild child, in other words still comes down to don’t know how to behave like woman in the 60′s or maybe those china woman and Vietnamese woman that some Singapore man fancy.

The objective of the 5 day “I will be a demure lady” camp is to teach them how to dress, how to eat and keep their figure slim and healthy, behave like a lady, keep their room neat and tidy, control their own emotions and be a happy little girl. (the last part irks me, and I am so sure that Xiaxue would be darn pissed off reading the article too.)

They argue that even though this society speaks of equality, there is still a difference between man and woman in terms of their physique and emotionally. Hence being equal does not mean not differentiating who is a man or who is a woman, ie. androgynous.

One of the interview with a mother Mrs Teng,(I am so sure she is a housewife, but then again that is my point of view), said that girls nowadays are to open-minded and competitive and has lost the “quality” of being a woman. I hope we are able to convert them back to what a woman should be like.

I’m a lil lazy to keep translating coz I’m preparing for my last paper, but I believe you get the gist of the camp and the “motive” that lies underneath it all. Maybe that chauvinistic organization should reflect on themselves a lil and organize another 5 days camp on teaching boys “how to behave like a gentlemen”. Maybe in that way, the society could go back to the LKY model of how a traditional family should be like. (giving birth to more than 2.1 kids per family lah..) If this chauvinist organization thinks that a 5 days camp is all that they need to make a modern girl into a shu nu aka demure lady, think again man.

Seems like a perfect time for them to have this camp after the Sarong Party Girl incident, since they probably see her behaviour as “unwomanly and wild child like”.

Listed below are my points:

Listen to your Man, Respect him for who he is and accept him… Do not expect him to be a Psychic( Relationships work best when each partner calmly express your current emotion without harping on what he has done).. support him emotionally

Always show that you are weaker than him. Speak only at the right time.

Came across a site: http://hunternuttall.com/blog/2008/05/how-to-be-a-woman/

The content are as follow:

1. Don’t apologize for being a woman.

You’re not a man. Surely you already know that. And yet, it’s possible that you’re secretly pretending to be one. Maybe you’re in a profession that’s dominated by men, so you feel you have to hide your femininity by dressing a certain way, acting a certain way, hiding your emotions, and so forth. Maybe you want to have a baby and take extended maternity leave, but you feel guilty that you’re not putting enough emphasis on your career.

The fact is, men and women are different because they’re supposed to be different. Men and women live their lives with their brains soaking in different hormones, so it’s inevitable that they turn out to be different. Men need women to be different, so don’t apologize for being who you are.

2. Realize that men are confused about how to treat women.

While the double standard was unfair, it had the benefit of being clearly defined. Today, women have many more options available to them, but the equality of the sexes has left many men wondering how a woman wants to be treated.

If a man gets out of his car and walks around to open the passenger door for a woman, she might be surprised by this behavior and give him a look that says to him “What, are you gay or something?” (Not that there’s anything wrong with that.) Based on this experience, he might later decide that when she offers to help pay for dinner, that he should let her, and she ends up being silently offended.

Realize that when your man goes back and forth between treating you like a modern liberated woman and a 1950s housewife, it’s quite possible that he just has no idea what you want. He’ll appreciate you for understanding his confusion and dropping hints about how you want to be treated.

3. Be clear about what being a woman means to you.

I once saw a woman who was absolutely furious about something that had happened to her at work, and was complaining about discrimination against women and the gender wage gap. I thought she certainly had some valid points. However, when she later got a speeding ticket, she asked “How could he give me a ticket? I’m just a girl.”

Maybe you have an idea about what being a woman means to you. For example, it might include being entitled to the same career opportunities as men and receiving equal pay for equal work. Fine. But if you play the “I’m just a girl” card whenever it’s convenient, that’s completely inconsistent with the image you had about women being equal to men.

If you keep changing your mental concept of being a woman, you’re sending out inconsistent vibes. If you sometimes expect to be treated as powerful and sometimes expect to be treated as helpless, the world won’t know how to respond to you. Decide who you are, and consistently project that image.

4. Help men out with the “Venus” concept.

In Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, John Gray pointed out some differences between men and women that might be stereotypical, but are also fairly accurate. He says that when women talk about a problem they’re having, what they really want is sympathy, but a man’s instinct is to offer solutions. This results in the man not being appreciated for his efforts, while the woman thinks he doesn’t care.

The reason your man offers solutions instead of sympathy is because in his eyes, sympathy doesn’t help nearly as much. The solutions aren’t because he doesn’t care, but because he doesn’t know any better. But if he understood that sympathy is what you really want (if that’s true for you), he’d be very happy with that, since being sympathetic takes a lot less effort than figuring out solutions.

Just be aware that he needs you to help him figure out what you want. If he starts thinking of solutions, just say that all you really need is a back rub, for example. Then let him know you appreciate it at the end. After doing this a couple of times, he’ll learn this is what he’s supposed to do.

5. At the same time, make an effort to respect the “Mars” principle.

The other point that John Gray made is that men don’t like to be given unsolicited advice. While meant to be helpful, to them it might sound like “I don’t trust you to be able to solve this problem. I need to help you because you’re not capable.”

The classic example is men’s infamous unwillingness to ask for directions. I know this is not universally true because in the days before MapQuest, I once voluntarily pulled over at a gas station to ask for directions, and thought nothing of it. However, some men can be much more difficult, refusing to stop for help, refusing even to call the friend they’re trying to find.

While this behavior may perplex you, know that it’s normal. If possible, try to avoid giving advice, even if you think it will be helpful. You can be the bigger woman here! However, there may be situations where remaining silent stops being an option, such as when you’ve been driving way too long, you still haven’t found the place, and you know you’re not going to.

One possibility is to just take out your cell phone and call someone for help, without telling him in advance what you’re doing. This way, you’ve spared him from “the shame of giving up.” On the other hand, he might not like this at all. There might not be a universal solution for this problem, but you can learn from experience what works best for you.

6. Don’t be offended when your man stares at someone else.

Yes, he’s wrong to do it, but it’s a necessary side effect of the same hormones that helped bring you together in the first place. A confident woman is secure enough not to feel threatened by an occasional peek. Besides, as Marilyn vos Savant said, “A pretty woman turns the heads of the boys, a beautiful woman turns the heads of the men too, but it takes a gorgeous woman to turn the heads of the women.” So if you didn’t turn your head, then she’s not that much of a threat.

If your man is bothering you by excessively staring at other women, one way to handle it is with an unexpected comment such as “check out the ass on her!” In addition to bringing to his attention that he might be staring more than he realizes, he’ll be so impressed you had the courage to say such a thing that he’ll instantly forget about what’s-her-name.

7. Gracefully handle the wedding dress issue.

If you’re an unmarried woman, the odds are good that one day you’ll want to spend thousands of dollars on a custom-made designer silk wedding dress that you’ll only wear once. The odds are also good that you’ll fail miserably in convincing your man that this makes any sense at all.

He wants to marry you, but he doesn’t care about the actual wedding, so don’t try to explain how important the dress is to you. He won’t get that. Instead, relate it to something he does care about. Something like this:

“Honey, did you see that the new Porsche 911 is out? I love this car, but the sticker price starts at $74,000. That seems like an awful lot, and your 1993 Corolla is still holding up. What do you think?”

To you, the car is stupid. To him, the dress is stupid. But they both mean similar things to their prospective owners. If you show that you value his wants even though you don’t understand them, he’s much more likely to reciprocate. Besides, the Porsche is a much better deal in terms of hours of enjoyment per dollar.

(Since finance is one of the topics I write about, I can’t let this go without saying that both a Porsche and an expensive wedding dress are terrible investments, logically speaking. Sure, sometimes it’s not about logic, but think very carefully before deciding that you have money to burn.)

Related links:

http://virtualteahouse.com/blogs/beth/archive/2008/05/13/how-to-be-a-woman.aspx

To me, A man is like a protector, an advisor..the head of the family and always forgiving and generous towards his woman. Doting her in all ways and making sure of her safety. 

Happen to come across a site on ‘How to be a Man’ :

http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2008/05/how-to-be-a-man/

What does it mean to be a man today? How can men consciously express their masculinity without becoming cold or closed-hearted on the one hand… or wimpy and emasculated on the other? What’s the most loving way for a conscious man to express himself?

Here are 10 ways to live more consciously as a man:

1. Make real decisions.

A man understands and respects the power of choice. He lives a life of his own creation. He knows that life stagnates when he fails to decide and flourishes when he chooses a clear path.

When a man makes a decision, he opens the door he wants and closes the doors he doesn’t want. He locks onto his target like a guided missile. There’s no guarantee he’ll reach his target, and he knows this, but he doesn’t need such guarantees. He simply enjoys the sense of inevitability that comes from pushing the launch button.

A man doesn’t require the approval of others. He’s willing to follow his heart wherever it leads him. When a man is following his heart-centered path, it’s of little consequence if the entire world is against him.

2. Put your relationships second.

A man who claims his #1 commitment in life is his relationship partner (or his family) is either too dishonest or too weak to be trusted. His loyalties are misplaced. A man who values individuals above his own integrity is a wretch, not a free thinker.

A man knows he must commit to something greater than satisfying the needs of a few people. He’s not willing to be domesticated, but he is willing to accept the responsibility that comes with greater challenges. He knows that when he shirks that duty, he becomes something less than a man. When others observe that the man is unyieldingly committed to his values and ideals, he gains their trust and respect, even when he cannot gain their direct support. The surest way for a man to lose the respect of others (as well as his self-respect) is to violate his own values.

Life will test the man to see if he’s willing to put loyalty to others ahead of loyalty to his principles. The man will be offered many temptations to expose his true loyalties. A man’s greatest reward is to live with integrity, and his greatest punishment is what he inflicts upon himself for placing anything above his integrity. Whenever the man sacrifices his integrity, he loses his freedom… and himself as well. He becomes an object of pity.

3. Be willing to fail.

A man is willing to make mistakes. He’s willing to be wrong. He’d rather try and fail than do nothing.

A man’s self-trust is one of his greatest assets. When he second-guesses himself by worrying about failure, he diminishes himself. An intelligent man considers the prospect of failure, but he doesn’t preoccupy himself with pointless worry. He accepts that if a failure outcome occurs, he can deal with it.

A man grows more from failure than he does from success. Success cannot test his resolve in the way that failure can. Success has its challenges, but a man learns more about himself when he takes on challenges that involve risk. When a man plays it safe, his vitality is lost, and he loses his edge.

4. Be confident.

A man speaks and acts with confidence. He owns his attitude.

A man doesn’t adopt a confident posture because he knows he’ll succeed. He often knows that failure is a likely outcome. But when the odds of success are clearly against him, he still exudes confidence. It isn’t because he’s ignorant or suffering from denial. It’s because he’s proving to himself that he has the strength to transcend his self-doubt. This builds his courage and persistence, two of his most valuable allies.

A man is willing to be defeated by the world. He’s willing to be taken down by circumstances beyond his control. But he refuses to be overwhelmed by his own self-doubt. He knows that when he stops trusting himself, he is surely lost. He’ll surrender to fate when necessary, but he won’t surrender to fear.

5. Express love actively.

A man is an active giver of love, not a passive receiver. A man is the first to initiate a conversation, the first to ask for what’s needed, and the first to say “I love you.” Waiting for someone else to make the first move is unbecoming of him. The universe does not respond positively to his hesitation. Only when he’s in motion do the floodgates of abundance open.

Man is the out-breath of source energy. It is his job — his duty — to share his love with the world. He must wean himself from suckling the energy of others and become a vibrant transmitter of energy himself. He must allow that energy to flow from source, through him, and into the world. When he assumes this role, he has no doubt he is living as his true self.

6. Re-channel sex energy.

A man doesn’t hide his sexuality. If others shrink from him because he’s too masculine, he allows them to have their reaction. There’s no need for him to lower his energy just to avoid frightening the timid. A man accepts the consequences of being male; he makes no apologies for his nature.

A man is careful not to allow his energy to get stuck at the level of lust. He re-channels much of his sexual energy into his heart and head, where it can serve his higher values instead of just his animal instincts. (You can do this by visualizing the energy rising, expanding, and eventually flowing throughout your entire body and beyond.)

A man channels his sexual energy into his heart-centered pursuits. He feels such energy pulsing within him, driving him to action. He feels uncomfortable standing still. He allows his sexual energy to explode through his heart, not just his genitals.

7. Face your fears.

For a man, being afraid of something is reason enough to do it. A man’s fear is a call to be tested. When a man hides from his fears, he knows he’s fallen out of alignment with his true self. He feels weak, depressed, and helpless. No matter how hard he tries to comfort himself and achieve a state of peace, he cannot overcome his inner feeling of dread. Only when facing his fears does a man experience peace.

A man makes a friend of risk. He doesn’t run and hide from the tests of fear. He turns toward them and engages them boldly.

A man succeeds or fails. A coward never makes the attempt. Specific outcomes are of less concern to a man than his direction.

A man feels like a man whenever he faces the right way, staring straight into his fears. He feels even more like a man when he advances in the direction of his fears, as if sailing on the winds of an inner scream.

8. Honor the masculinity of other men.

When a man sees a male friend undertaking a new venture that will clearly lead to failure, what does the man do? Does he warn his friend off such a path? No, the man encourages his friend to continue. The man knows it’s better for his friend to strike out confidently and learn from the failure experience. The man honors his friend’s decision to reach out and make the attempt. The man won’t deny his friend the benefits of a failure experience. The man may offer his friend guidance, but he knows his friend must fail repeatedly in order to develop self-trust and courage.

When you see a man at the gym struggling to lift a heavy weight, do you jump in and say, “Here… let me help you with that. Maybe the two of us can lift it together”? No, that would rob him of the growth experience — and probably make a quick enemy of him as well.

The male path is filled with obstacles. It typically includes more failures than successes. These obstacles help a man discover what’s truly important to him. Through repeated failures a man learns to persist in the pursuit of worthy goals and to abandon goals that are unworthy of him.

A man can handle being knocked down many times. For every physical setback he experiences, he enjoys a spiritual advancement, and that is enough for him.

9. Accept responsibility for your relationships.

A man chooses his friends, lovers, and associates consciously. He actively seeks out the company of people who inspire and challenge him, and he willingly sheds those who hold him back.

A man doesn’t blame others for his relationship problems. When a relationship is no longer compatible with his heart-centered path, he initiates the break-up and departs without blame or guilt.

A man holds himself accountable for the relationships he allows into his life. He holds others accountable for their behavior, but he holds himself accountable for his decision to tolerate such behavior.

A man teaches others how to treat him by the relationships he’s willing to allow into his life. A man refuses to fill his life with negative or destructive relationships; he knows that’s a form of self-abuse.

10. Die well.

A man’s great challenge is to develop the inner strength to express his true self. He must learn to share his love with the world without holding back. When a man is satisfied that he’s done that, he can make peace with death. But if he fails to do so, death becomes his enemy and haunts him all the days of his life.

A man cannot die well unless he lives well. A man lives well when he accepts his mortality and draws strength from knowing that his physical existence is temporary. When a man faces and accepts the inevitability of death… when he learns to see death as his ally instead of his enemy… he’s finally able to express his true self. So a man isn’t ready to live until he accepts that he’s already dead.

Came across this article in my paper by’ Miss Shenton’.

Today’s topic is about cheating on one’s partner.

Below is a translation of the article which is written in mandarin.

According to Miss Shenton, a recent live show on Korea TV where strangers were sent to test on couples’ faithfulness to each other. One stranger will be sent to strike up a conversation with one of the partner of a couple and this show had actually lead to many couples breaking up.

Are woman less forgiving than man?

Usually when the guys are being caught, would cry and ask for forgiveness when they are being caught red-handed by their girl counterpart. However, when the girls are the one being caught, they usually will no ask for forgiveness, instead they will ak for a break up. Are woman really heartless?

 A guy friend of Mis shenton reflected that Girls have thinner skin, so it is difficult for them to put down their dignity and ego to apologize. SO he will usually apologize first and was not calculative and not bothered if his girlfriend apologize or not. ( SUch guy is so generous n not even bothered with such trifle matters !! )

To the girls out there: Will you put down your dignity?

Woman Tends to be more Responsible for their own Actions?

No matter is it the woman or the man, ones’ dignity and ego will be affected by the depth of their love in a relationship. It may be seen that when the man begs bitterly for forgiveness and to ask for chances to stay and apologize his wrong doings shows that he is deeply in love with his partners. Lets give it a benefit of doubt.

Some may think that the motive of the man begging in tears is to show others (in the form of acting) that he is a good person who loves his partner deeply while a woman who can leave and result in a break up calmly will reflect that woman are heartless and do not really love their partner that much or that deeply or do not even love the partner anymore. Y waste the effort in asking for forgiveness?

However, Man do ponder.. If your love for your woman is really that deep in the first place, then why leave the woman and be temped by the others and cheat on your lover?

Would you discard your dignity and apologize to save your love?

I don’t think I will be so hardcore .. LOL

Just some thing to share with my readers.

 Source: http://lifehacker.com/5481921/the-day-traders-paradise

(Courtesy of Alex)

Read this especially http://sgbluechip.blogspot.com/2010/01/portfolio-updates.html  

The author of this blog is in his early thrities and aim to make is $1M by 35. HE is drawing $88K annualy and is currently a part time Masters of Applied Finance student There are many other intersting topics which are useful and realistic such as dating expenses in singapore, etc  

I have my own investment portfolio and not being as ambitious as he is I aim to earn my 1st million by 40 and retire early. Before making your own investments , please make sure you have your rainy days savings (i.e 6 x your current Salary so that these back up liquid cash can help to sustain you for 3 to 6 mths being unemployed).  

Now having the extra cash, you cna use them to do your investments wisely. Always do your homework and never depend on hearsay. Keeping yourself updated with the news, market performance, economy performance and various news will be a great help whentyou are making your investing decision. Choose a stock/share that has a strong back up and good reputation. Observe their past payout and past performance. Understand their parent company and what type of sector they are dealing with comparing their performance against the current market trends and economy outlook before making your last decision.  

Be sure of your own attitude towards investments. If you belong to the conservative category, please invest at your own risk. Always be prepared that some of your investments will be going down the drain. However, If you had done your homework and invest wisely the effect will not be as great. Conservative investors should not deal with high risk investments. On the other hand, they can try to look at defensive stock that generates dividends quartely or occassionaly for some.  

For those risk takers, you can invest at your own risks and I also agree High risk High returns!!  

One Warning for all: DO not be greedy !! And Do your HOMEWORK before all investments.  

I am still an amatuer so the above mentioned are just my own opinion and 2 cent worth   

Some useful links:  

http://investideas.net/forum/viewtopic.php?f=16&t=2673&start=30  

http://sgbluechip.blogspot.com/  

http://reitdata.com/  

http://www.gurufocus.com/holdings.php?GuruName=Warren+Buffett